A Woman’s Dreams Realized: Having a Family and Creating a Family for Another | Birth Story

In the winter of 2012, I went out with some friends for what I thought was a casual dinner. It turned out my best friend was telling us she was pregnant! I couldn’t have been happier for her.

We had always talked about having kids close in age, so I really started thinking about having my own. I went to my family doctor and mentioned to him – I had been off birth control for almost 4 years at that point and had never had so much as a thought that I may be pregnant. He thought it normal, but decided to run a few tests anyways. 

It turns out that I had some pretty severe hormonal problems including a massive amount of cysts encircling my ovaries. Right there I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. 

I had never even heard of this before, but the one thing that stood out to me was the a) the lack of available information, and b) the information I was given had a grim hope of ever having my own child without medical intervention. I was crushed. All I had ever wanted was to be a mom to at least 3 kids. Now how was I ever going to be able to have one?!

I met with a gynaecologist who confirmed my doctors findings and put me on a medication to help my body establish a menstrual cycle and my body seemingly over reacted to it! I ovulated for the first time in YEARS, and much to my surprise 3 months later, I found out I was actually 8 weeks pregnant! 

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Aside from severe pregnancy sickness, I had a great pregnancy. Nothing at all like I was told would happen!

March of 2014, I went into spontaneous labor at 37 weeks and got to the hospital at 5cm with regular contractions. It was all going so smoothly, until it wasn’t. 

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My son went into fetal distress and his heart rate dipped below 5BPM and they couldn’t get it up. I had decided not to have an epidural, so the doctors had to rush me to emergency surgery where I was under general anesthesia. 

My son was born just 15 minutes later, and after a large hemorrhage, I was on my way to recovery myself.  I got to meet Kaiden after about 4 hours, and finally hold him. 

I couldn’t believe it: I was finally a mom! 

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After everything I went through with him, and the uncertainty of my own parental journey, I decided when he was 18 months to look into surrogacy. I loved the idea of helping someone else become a parent. 

 

 

I joined an agency, and in a whirlwind of a few months, met an incredible intended father, and transferred a single embryo. The two week wait to find out if I was indeed pregnant was the longest wait ever! But it was all worth it when I got the CONGRATULATIONS email from our fertility clinic. We had really done it! I was pregnant, and he was going to be a dad! 

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The pregnancy flew by, and in no time, I was preparing for labor again. 

I was slightly terrified to go through the same thing as I did with my son. Everyone assured me that was a one in a million situation and the chance of it happening again was so slim, but I was given the choice of elected c-section or VBAC. 

I decided to attempt a VBAC. I was a single mom of a busy toddler and wanted to try for the easiest recovery. 

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April 2017, I went into the hospital as directed and 12 hours later (with a little help as she was face up!) a beautiful baby girl was born. I just remember crying into my moms shoulder and saying ‘I made a family’! It was the most emotional moment of my life, everyone in the room was in tears. I will never forget the look on her dad’s face as he finally got to realize his dream of being a father came true. 

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